I have a couple of thoughts on a topic. I’m not sure if my thoughts on the topic are controversial.
We as men are primal creatures. Visual stimuli drives my initial thoughts about sex and dating. I am not suggesting men are not emotional.
Since our initial thoughts and reactions are stimulated by visual stimuli, we gravitate towards the nude female body.
A short history
My take on the history of porn has three stages:
- live performance
- magazine and videos (VHS/DVD)
- video on demand (Pornhub and Youporn)
- personalised content (OnlyFans and Fansly)
Meeting women online is a challenge. There seems to be two sides to the one coin, and I feel these two sides contradict each other.
Two sides of the coin
On one side, men are trying to meet women the way it happens in porn. They believe women owe them sex. It feels like this leads to women being selective when it comes to talking to all men. Women appear to be closeted until there is some level of trust (if they open up).
It feels like this closeted nature leads to women ignoring men, including the genuine ones.
On the other side, some women are trying to attract the attention of men with the hope they pay for “personalised” content via OnlyFans or Fansly. They post openly on a variety of social media, sometimes across many sub-sections. Men are lured in with the phrasing on their social media posts. It gives the impression they can meet the woman
It seems that we have a catch-22 scenario.
I am confused
For years I have watched women fight against the unwanted attention of men while at the same time there is this increased desire for wanted attention. Now I know these are not necessarily the same women on both sides, however it feels as though they can be.
Some women want the paid attention of men, conversely some men are interested in the companionship of women. When a woman posts asking for interaction, but then only replies through platforms where they are compensated with a subscription, I just get annoyed.
What next?
So how does a genuine man stand out from the crowd to find a genuine woman? It feels like a catch-22.