Musings of a Switch

Unfiltered thoughts from a bisexual switch

William

Curvy and dark desires

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Content warning: I share some personal thoughts about dark skinned women. They are not intended to come across as the fetishisation of these women.

I have previously shared some thoughts on my sexual desires with people who have certain features. Today is another one of those days.

Today’s desires are for cisgendered women today. However, I want these women to be curvy and have dark coloured skin. Why my brain has these types of women on my mind is anyone’s guess.

BUT that is who I am put in the search bar when looking for porn. Or imagine the body of the voice artist when listening to some adult recordings from r/gonewildaudio.

Not sure it will happen in my life, I seem to have the propensity to drive away people who show any interest in me at all.

Another announcement 🙄

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I am always posting about why I have nothing to say, I am not going to do that any more. I feel like I am posting for the sake of posting and creating drama.

So I am going forward from this post following these principles:

  • writing content that I enjoy writing
  • writing content when I enjoy writing
  • writing content because I want to write content

Occasionally the writing will be low quality (although I do my best otherwise), sometimes it will hit a nerve with my readers, maybe it will cause controversy. I would like to learn how to let those feelings go and let them just sit without making me feel bad about myself.

As someone mentioned the other day on one of the Subreddit’s that I follow over my my SFW alter ego, this is the internet, and not an airport, we don’t need to announce our departure or arrival on the scene. Yet here I am doing exactly that, making an announcement about my internet presence when it isn’t necessary or warranted.

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Going forward

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What is there to actually write about?

This is a question that I have been sitting on for the best part of the last six months. The blog posts have dried up apart from a review post for a dildo that my wife and I quite enjoyed.

There hasn’t been much happening in my life of late to report on.

I have not been actively searching for a little to join me on a poly adventure (well maybe not 100% true but that is another story).

I’m thinking it might be time to call the blog quits (not that anybody will even notice its lack of existence if I did shut it down).

The Basilisk

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Neither of Missus Sub nor I have had the opportunity to purchase a new sex toy for a number of years. We were recently given the opportunity to review a product from the Laphwing catalogue of toys, so we were greatly honoured to try something new.

The catalogue of Laphwing is broad and varied, from traditional penile shaped dildos and vibrators, to fantasy and animal dildos. Our collection to date has generally been the traditional shaped toys, so we took the opportunity to try out a fantasy shaped dildo.

Our toy of choice for this review is the Basilisk Volcanic Rock 8.1″ Fantasy Dildo.

Material & Texture

The Laphwing website states that the Basilisk is made from premium silicone. It is firm when compressed in my hand, yet flexible when twisted and bent.

This feeling makes for what we believe is a well performing dildo. It stretches our vagina and arse, while still conforming to our insides without putting undue pressure in the wrong places.

The surface texture of the Basilisk allows for easy insertion through the gradual changes in overall size, but has enough texture to feel the smaller lumps when inserted.

Mounting

How does one use a dildo? There are a couple of ways: 1) held in your hand, thrusting yourself, 2) a partner holds it, and thrusts it for you, 3) a partner uses it with a harness, or 4) mounted to a flat surface, wall, mirror or floor using a suction cup.

The suction cup on the Basilisk is strong, and holds the dildos weight comfortably in any position we have tried it. Definitely love a dildo with a suction cup for some solo play in the shower.

Lube compatibility

Our preferred lubricant of choice are natural juices, Missus Sub is quite the juice maker.

However in the event that natural juices are not enough, we always go for a premium water based lubricant. Not only does it work well for us, but it also makes cleaning up at the end of a fun session that much easier.

We don’t dare use silicone based lubricants. We have had bad experiences in the past, and while we can test on a small area, we generally don’t run that risk with our toys.

Use water based lubricants only.

Cleaning

Because of the heavy texturing, as well as nooks and crannies, cleaning the Basilisk can be challenging, however a soft brush can help, but we haven’t had any problems with cleaning. A good toy cleaner, or simply soap and water and left to dry before putting away should result in a long lasting toy.

Overall thoughts

If you are looking for your first fantasy or animal dildo, the Basilisk Volcanic Rock is a great option. It is small enough and can start your journey, but also is varied enough for a variety of play, oral, vaginal and anal. The texture is suitable for a variety of sensations.

Would I purchase another, I sure would, and definitely open to trying other animal dildos from the Laphwing Sex Toys store.