Porn has been a part of my life since my middle teenage years. Has it always been a healthy relationship? Probably not. However I don’t think I have ever been addicted to porn in the sense that it interferes with my life.
One thing that happens when I look at porn, is that it causes me to hyper focus on one particular physical aspect of the human body, male or female. This causes my desires to be for a person with those physical characteristics.
For instance, the current porn over on Reddit I am subscribed to are large labia pics. Of course the same few females come up time and again in my Reddit feed, but it still causes me to have an obsession with wanting to meet and play with a woman who has those characteristics.
Given how few people have those characteristics, my mind still thinks that I deserve the opportunity to play with a woman who has that anatomy. Logically I know that my chances of meeting someone who has those characteristics, AND would be willing to join me in the bedroom are slim, I still have this idea they are more prevalent than reality.
Yes my mind seems to take a slim chance, and inflate it to something that is the regular and norm when it comes to the wider population. Of course the subreddits are a concentration of these particular physical characteristics. So one thing is that I cycle through a number of different characteristics.
Some of the characteristics that are part of my porn Reddit history in the past include:
- large labia
- dark skinned women
- big beautiful women
- transfems
- large nipples
- adult breastfeeding
That isn’t even the full list, just some of the most recent ones that I can remember.
So while porn has not had an addictive effect on me, it does shape the way that I see people when it comes to physical characteristics.
Being one person, my experience is my experience, however I suspect that I am not the only one that has those experiences. I’m sure that many have very similar ones.
So what has your porn relationships been like? Have you had similar experiences? Even been addicted?
Hey William! Your honest take on how porn influences our perceptions and desires is refreshingly candid. It’s interesting how specific physical traits can become focal points, shaping what we find attractive. Your experience with hyper-focusing on particular characteristics and the resulting desires offers a relatable perspective on how media consumption impacts our sexual preferences. Thanks for sharing your journey and prompting thoughtful reflection on our own experiences with porn. Keep the insightful posts coming! 🌟💬