Musings of a Switch

Unfiltered thoughts from a bisexual switch

William

BDSM Test

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Every few months I do the BDSM Test and see how my kinks have evolved, been added to, or fallen away into the background.

These are my latest set of results, and as usual, being a Switch remains top of my list. But what does surprise me this time is that for most of BDSM Archetypes categorised, most of them are paire for both the top and bottom sides of them, for instance, Sadism & Masochism, and Boy/Girl & Daddy/Mommy.

I guess it is something that cements in the idea of being a true Switch.

BDSM ArchetypeRating
Switch100%
Masochist83%
Sadist82%
Rope bunny80%
Submissive79%
Boy/Girl76%
Daddy/Mommy75%
Non-monogamist74%
Experimentalist73%
Rigger71%
Dominant70%
Ageplayer69%
Brat69%
Voyeur61%
Primal (Prey)52%
Brat Tamer50%
Pet46%
Primal (Hunter)40%
Slave31%
Vanilla31%
Degradee30%
Degrader29%
Master / Mistress17%
Exhibitionist14%
Owner7%
http://bdsmtest.org/r/ac5rpDt5

Here’s to the next time I do the test and see how I have evolved.

Piercing thoughts

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Over the last few weeks, the idea of getting a Prince Albert piercing has been near the front of my mind. The idea of having a 10 gauge needle stuck through my body, and a ring slipped through after the needle, then left to hang off the body both excites and terrifies me.

My mind continually wanders between the excitement of doing something different for myself, something that some people see as taboo, and complete terror at having a complete stranger stick a needle through the skin of an intimate body part that few people have seen. However the idea that I have been having these thoughts for many years, without going away, means that the mind is really leaning towards getting the piercing.

The biggest issue that I am coming to terms with is how it will look. As an uncircumcised man, the piercing will not sit the same way as 99% of images on the internet portray the Prince Albert piercing. Most piercing websites, blogs, and Reddit have Prince Albert piercing pictures on circumcised penis’. A few pics appear for uncircumcised penis’ but it is hard to imagine how it will sit for me.

Apart from the appearance, some people report excessive bleeding in the 24 hours after the piercing, that also turns me off the idea. Many people say this excessive bleeding only happens in some circumstances, my mind always wanders to the worst case scenario for myself, and that will be excessive bleeding from the piercing site. While I am not afraid of blood, the idea of blood pouring out of my crotch does not appeal to me.

As of writing this blog post, I am ready to get the piercing, and I am also not ready to get the Prince Albert piercing. I feel that it is best to just go and get it done to put the idea to bed, but do I want a permanent hole in my body in my penis?

I think I need to just take the plunge, four years of thinking about it, and the idea of getting the piercing not going away, is clearly the universe telling me I need to do something about these thoughts.

Crystal Delights glass butt plug

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Having never tried a glass butt plug before, when Shellie from Crystal Delights offered me a toy in exchange for a review, I jumped at the chance.

The Crystal Delights Glass Butt Plug come in two sizes, small and regular, and have a range of seven, yes 7, Swarovski Elements crystal colours to choose from. Each butt plug is shaped to perfection by “highly skilled artisans”. Being handcrafted, no two butt plugs will ever be identical.

Both versions of the Crystal Delights plugs come with the same size head and base, the only difference between the small and regular versions of the toy is the length of the neck connecting the head with the base. As well as clear glass, there is Crystal Frost which is frosted glass, and Crystal Kiss which contains a swirl of coloured glass inside. The Crystal Kiss looks amazing on the website, and I am sure that it would look just as amazing in real life.

Having never tried an anal toy with a round base, I was a tad hesitant at first, especially considering I chose the shorter version of the plug. I found that the plug was easier to insert than my silicone plug from CalExotics due to the rigidity of the plug. Having the round base meant that the plug sat further out than my silicone plug, however it still felt comfortable when I was moving around the house and making love to my wife. The diameter of the neck (shaft) allowed my anus to grip the plug and prevent it moving about too much while I was wearing it.

M hasn’t been game enough to try out the Crystal Delights Butt Plug, however she will try it when she is comfortable with it. Being a glass toy, the plug can be easily sterilised with a 10% bleach mixture or alcohol. It is not recommended to put this toy in the dishwasher or boil it as you will damage the Swarovski crystal in the base.

Being a pyrex glass toy, all lubricants are suitable without damage to the toy at all. I personally use a silicone-based lubricant as it retains it’s slipperiness for longer than a water-based lubricant.

The more that I use this plug, the more that I am falling in love with it, so much so that I may just have to go and purchase a second one for M to wear while I am wearing mine.

The Crystal Delights Glass Butt Plugs can be purchased by placing an order through the Crystal Delights email ordering, phoning them, or even by snail mail. Please let them know that you were referred to them by this website.

This product from Crystal Delights has been provided in return for an honest and personal review of the product. The views expressed in this post are my own, and have not been influenced in any way by the supplier of the toy.

Opening statements

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I have lost track of how m any times I have considered re-starting a blog of some form. For the last few years I have chickened out of writing in digital format on a blog, and have opted for a hand written journal. Hopefully this becomes more than a handful of posts.

Having used an old school paper journal for many years, those paper journals have been mainly dedicated to the vanilla side of life, problems with work, life and family. I have kept sex and kink locked away mentally and lost the the ability to write and share my thoughts about how they affected me. I have been thinking about how to incorporate them given my history has of journaling has been vanilla.

Photo by Jan Kahánek on Unsplash

I’m not sure that I will be able to incorporate my sex and kink in my journal, so why not write about theme here on a public blog. I’m sure that there will be some posts that come with a password for those I know personally and want to share with. Just as I’m sure there will be other posts that will be for my eyes only. But I feel I need to get these words down and out and onto some form of paper, even if they are just digital 1s and 0s of computer code.