Musings of a Switch

Unfiltered thoughts from a bisexual switch

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Public displays of affection

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How do you feel about PDA? (You can take this as far as “kinks in public,” too.)

In my opinion the PDA can be taken too far both in a vanilla and kink relationships. The line where you cross is different for all people, however for me it comes down to perception.

In a vanilla relationship, holding hands, a quick kiss, a deep embracing hug are all acceptable displays of affection in public. Visibly showing yourself reaching up a skirt, down a top, or inside a pair of pants is a step too far for me.

If it is something you would do in front of your parents or grandparents, then that is acceptable for me.

When it comes to kinks, it is a very similar line, however if the tasks can be completed in a vanilla setting without it being obvious to a non-kinky person, then that is an acceptable PDA for me.

I personally have worn chastity cages out in public not on show for all. Missus sub has worn rope harnesses under her clothing, and people were none the wiser. As long as what you are doing does not expose non-consenting people to your kinks, then that is fine with me.

Elust 163

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Just a random thought

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Every now and then, when I am in a submissive mindset, I have a very similar thought each & every time. It has been the same thought year after year.

I have never acted on the thought because I’m not sure that acting on it will necessarily improve my happiness. This is my random thought:

What would it be like to be the owner of a vagina & breasts?

Not sure why, but it seems to come on most strongly when I am in a submissive, anal, slutty type mood.

I certainly do not feel as though I am a woman trapped in a man’s body and would like to transition towards being a woman. But I guess it is more inquisitive than anything else, curious to feel the sensations that a woman does, to know what it is like to be on the receiving end of a good pounding.

I think that is partly related to my bisexual feelings, while being hetero-romantic. I like the idea of sucking on a strong, hard cock, the idea of an anal fucking, and having a man leave a load of warm, sticky cum in my arse.

So I would not consider myself trans, more just a bisexual hetero-romantic guy who would like to experience the feelings of being a woman.

An upcoming adventure

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It has been some time since I have written anything here on the blog about any sexual adventures or feelings. Mainly because not many adventures have been had.

I took a break from seeking any additional polyamorous partners for a few months. I find it exhausting to continue looking without having much luck.

However, it seems that things may be turning around in the near future, particularly when it comes to some bedroom action.

Cartoon image of a couple on a bed, the woman pegging the man on his back
Pegging by Girl on the Net

Well, I have met someone online, we are very much into each other and looking for something similar. Unfortunately they live in a different state to me, and only get to my home town every 6 to 8 weeks.

We have high expectations at the moment that we will meet in the coming weeks. At the moment it will be dinner or drinks & hopefully some fooling around in the bedroom. As is the case, online fun & thoughts sometimes don’t pan out the way you hope in person.

I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much. I have a habit of getting my hopes up, and then very disappointed when it does not work out as expected.

I have to catch myself before I let it go too far. I can almost feel it rising too far at the moment even though it is still a few weeks away & their travel plans are not locked in yet.

So those are my current sexual adventures for the moment, I hope they all work out for our sake. I will report back once more details are known.