Last weekend, Molly published her annual Top 100 Sex Blogs for 2022. I did not make the list, I don’t even believe that my blog was nominated for the main list, or even the newcomers list.
Am I disappointed? In a way yes I am, but logically I know that because I wasn’t nominated that I can’t be on the list. Hell, I didn’t even nominate myself (whether it was allowed or not).
I shared some thoughts on the matter over on my Mastodon account. However it has been suggested that I expand on those initial thoughts some more here on the blog. While I have never been on the Top 100 list with any of my blogs, I am slightly concerned that writing about it like this will get me struck off the list permanently if I am nominated in the future.
Time and energy
One reason I don’t think I have been on the list before is having the time and energy to dedicate to learning to write high quality articles and stories consistently.
With two children, Missus Sub and I both working full time, dedicating the time and energy to writing can be a challenge.
Blog longevity
You might think having written 3 or 4 blogs over the space of 15 years, I would have a good understanding of writing for people. However in my day job, I’m writing for a technical audience, and that does not translate well to a casual reader.
So when you have a blog for 18-24 months, and you are only getting 10 to 15 views per day on average, the idea of having a successful blog slowly wanes out of existence. Sure I can comment on other blogs with links to my blog/s, get my thoughts out on social media with links to my blog/s, but again, a lack of time and energy hinders that.
Other reasons
I believe there are other reasons that see me not being added to the Top 100 list. I am not going to share those thoughts because they might be seen as libellous. I do not have the energy to defend my position on social media or blogs.
However I feel that sharing my beliefs will see me further ostracised from the sex blogging community. Links to my blog, or any comments I make will never be published on a sex blog other than my own. So I’m not intending to go down that path.
Where to from here
Even without libel, I feel like this blog post will end my chances for this blog ever making it onto a Molly’s Top 100 Sex Blogs.
Since the list has been published for 2022, hopefully I can move on for the next 10-12 months until the rumblings of the 2023 list come about. Maybe I’ll consider nominating for next years list (although more likely not) because I can’t see myself being added to the “echo chamber”.
Thanks for this. I agree, promoting your blog and that of other people takes time. As does contributing to any community and participating in it. The 100 top blogs is a labour of love for Molly. Peers make the recommendations and then she uses a published criteria to decide the rankings. I’m sorry you don’t believe your blog to be good enough, I’m sure that’s not the case. Also saying you have reasons for not liking the whole thing but then being unwilling to give reasons is sad. Why don’t you engage with Molly, she’s a great person.
We’re all busy with jobs, lives etc. None of us has lots of time. But to be frank engaging with others in the blogging world can have benefits