Am I disappointed? In a way yes I am, but logically I know that because I wasn’t nominated that I can’t be on the list. Hell, I didn’t even nominate myself (whether it was allowed or not).
I shared some thoughts on the matter over on my Mastodon account. However it has been suggested that I expand on those initial thoughts some more here on the blog. While I have never been on the Top 100 list with any of my blogs, I am slightly concerned that writing about it like this will get me struck off the list permanently if I am nominated in the future.
Time and energy
One reason I don’t think I have been on the list before is having the time and energy to dedicate to learning to write high quality articles and stories consistently.
With two children, Missus Sub and I both working full time, dedicating the time and energy to writing can be a challenge.
You might think having written 3 or 4 blogs over the space of 15 years, I would have a good understanding of writing for people. However in my day job, I’m writing for a technical audience, and that does not translate well to a casual reader.
So when you have a blog for 18-24 months, and you are only getting 10 to 15 views per day on average, the idea of having a successful blog slowly wanes out of existence. Sure I can comment on other blogs with links to my blog/s, get my thoughts out on social media with links to my blog/s, but again, a lack of time and energy hinders that.
I believe there are other reasons that see me not being added to the Top 100 list. I am not going to share those thoughts because they might be seen as libellous. I do not have the energy to defend my position on social media or blogs.
However I feel that sharing my beliefs will see me further ostracised from the sex blogging community. Links to my blog, or any comments I make will never be published on a sex blog other than my own. So I’m not intending to go down that path.
Where to from here
Even without libel, I feel like this blog post will end my chances for this blog ever making it onto a Molly’s Top 100 Sex Blogs.
Since the list has been published for 2022, hopefully I can move on for the next 10-12 months until the rumblings of the 2023 list come about. Maybe I’ll consider nominating for next years list (although more likely not) because I can’t see myself being added to the “echo chamber”.