Musings of a Switch

Unfiltered thoughts from a bisexual switch

William

eLust 158

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Awesome sex

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How do you define “awesome” sex (i.e. what makes sex better than good)?

It is hard to define awesome sex as any one particular sex act, group of sex acts to participate in. It certainly comes from more of a mindset.

However as I was talking with someone the other day, my ideas for awesome sex generally involve something along the lines of any type of scene, when communication between all parties just flows well, everyone is in the zone, everyone really enjoys themselves and the aftercare for all parties is exactly what they want and need.

It does not sound like much, but getting that combination for all people involved is very much a challenge, and becomes more difficult the more people involved. I’m not saying that it does not happen for larger group scenes, it just is more difficult to achieve.

So yes, I see awesome sex involving great communication, excellent chemistry and aftercare that all people enjoy.

BDSM Test

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Since it is a new year, I have decided to give the BDSM Test another crack for 2023. I want to see how much I have evolved over time.

Looking at the results quickly, being a switch still remains number 1 on my list. There have been some slight movements up and down the list, but I think overall the list is relatively steady.

I definitely agree with the switch rating, as I swing both ways. I’ll come back in a few months and see what happens.

BDSM ARCHETYPERATING
Switch100%
Non-monogamist90%
Brat90%
Experimentalist86%
Masochist85%
Daddy/Mommy85%
Dominant79%
Sadist76%
Submissive76%
Brat tamer74%
Ageplayer73%
Boy/girl73%
Rigger68%
Voyeur61%
Vanilla53%
Primal (Hunter)41%
Primal (Prey)34%
Master/Mistress31%
Rope bunny31%
Owner23%
Degrader14%
Exhibitionist11%
Slave9%
Pet3%
Degradee3%

Here’s to the next time I do the test and see how I have evolved further.

Spankee

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Hello everyone, I am new to the S/M scene and I have an interest in being on the receiving end of a spanking. As I am new, what is in my mind may be very different from what my body may be able to handle.

So I am looking for someone who is willing to guide me, to show me the ropes so to speak, and let me explore my threshold for spanking & impact play, and potentially even pushing my boundaries (under consent obviously).

I’m unable to host, but would be willing to explore other options (yours, hotel, outdoors, etc).

Please hit me up if this is something you might be open to exploring with a BHM.

Embarrassing sex

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Is there anything about sex that embarrasses you, causes shame or fear, or makes you nervous? Or…what’s the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you during sex?

There are two questions here, and I’m going to answer the second one. What is the most embarrassing thing that has happened during sex?

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We the most embarrassing thing for me was one particular morning, Missus Sub and I had the bed alone together in the morning the kids were still in bed sleeping, so we took the opportunity for some X-rated time together, something that is precious when you have children.

So we were busy like rabbits together, I was on top, Missus Sub has her legs over my shoulders, and my cock was deep inside her. We were in a rhythm together, my balls slapping against Missus Sub, and the orgasm was building deep inside me.

Just as I was about to fill Missus Sub with my seed, we heard the bedroom door open, and our son came clambering up the bed and onto my back. He hopped on and with a look of shock on my face, I stopped mid-stroke. Missus Sub and I just looked at each other, and started laughing, I rolled off Missus Sub, grabbed our son so I didn’t squash him, then just laughed at what had happened.

While it wasn’t embarrassing to others, I certainly found it embarrassing and funny at the same time.