Musings of a Switch

Unfiltered thoughts from a bisexual switch

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Moving forward

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Life for the last six or so months has been a series of ups and downs. There were many high points, and many low points that followed the highs. I met new people online, a few of those I met in person, and some of those have decided to go their own way.

What I have learned from these six months is that what I am looking for in a person probably does not exist. The idea of finding a person who is:

  • looking for in person DDlg dynamic
  • open to exploring with a relatively inexperienced Daddy
  • polyamorous
  • flexible around life situations

Trying to find the quadrella within the Sydney basin seems relatively difficult. Six months of exploring has not found someone who is willing to go the distance beyond talking online.

So where to now?

It seem that the person I am looking for is a unicorn, I think I need to accept one of three things:

  1. I become more flexible in the criteria I am looking for
  2. I stop looking for the unicorn
  3. I find a new kink to explore with poly people

I don’t feel my criteria can be any more flexible without damaging my existing family. I would essentially need to have my own play space that I have access to 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and that basically means not having a family. Alternatively I stop looking for the unicorn.

Given one of them is far easier to achieve than the other, I think I really need to pick the option where I stop looking. I cannot continue looking for a needle in a haystack, especially if this needle does not appear to exist.

So from today, this switch will stop looking for the unicorn, and start learning to accept what I have been given. If the opportunity arises I might explore it, however I’m not too sure that it will arrive.

I think it might be time to farewell this chapter of Daddy Dom and put it behind me, confining it to the history of this blog. Maybe a new chapter will open in the future, but for now I think this chapter is closed.

When a dynamic ends

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When a dynamic ends, you always question whether there is something more you could have done to make the dynamic continue.

One of my online ones ended this morning, I knew it was likely to end, and I knew this day would eventually come, but it still hurts just a little that it can’t continue.

It was fun while it lasted, but all good things must come to an end.

BDSM Test

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Since it is a new year, I have decided to give the BDSM Test another crack for 2023. I want to see how much I have evolved over time.

Looking at the results quickly, being a switch still remains number 1 on my list. There have been some slight movements up and down the list, but I think overall the list is relatively steady.

I definitely agree with the switch rating, as I swing both ways. I’ll come back in a few months and see what happens.

BDSM ARCHETYPERATING
Switch100%
Non-monogamist90%
Brat90%
Experimentalist86%
Masochist85%
Daddy/Mommy85%
Dominant79%
Sadist76%
Submissive76%
Brat tamer74%
Ageplayer73%
Boy/girl73%
Rigger68%
Voyeur61%
Vanilla53%
Primal (Hunter)41%
Primal (Prey)34%
Master/Mistress31%
Rope bunny31%
Owner23%
Degrader14%
Exhibitionist11%
Slave9%
Pet3%
Degradee3%

Here’s to the next time I do the test and see how I have evolved further.

What makes a good profile?

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I shared my current personals profile post that I have been using for the last couple of weeks over on Fetlife and Reddit. I don’t want this blog to become my seeking place, but I want to share to get some crowd improvements that may help.

So I am always thinking about things to add (or remove) that might help my posts stand out from the general crowd and find that special person to explore with.

So I would love for some of my readers to have a read of what I currently use, and share some thoughts about a number of different aspects for it:

  • What makes you choose to ignore the post altogether?
  • What interests you to read it in full and not respond?
  • What stirs something inside to cause you to send a message?

So I would love your thoughts, you can share them publicly below as a comment, or you can share them privately using my Contact form.

Aussie Daddy seeking his special little

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Hello Littles, middles and caregivers

My name is William. I am from Sydney, Australia, and I am looking for someone to be my special little. I have lots of love to share with you and much to teach you as my little.

I am:

  • kind, caring, sensual and affectionate
  • assertive and dominant as we explore our shared kinks together
  • open minded as I listen and learn about you, your wants, needs, and everything your heart desires.

I want the two of us to have a great time whenever we are together (as well as apart), and to share dinner dates, movie nights, dancing, cuddles, kisses and so much more.

I would like my little to:

  • be nerdy, geeky and/or artistic
  • have hobbies outside of Cgl
  • have some bratty tendencies, but also know when Daddy mean business

I do not mind a little who is into pacifiers and bottles/sippy cups, and she can also be into wearing diapers if she wants. I have some sadist tendencies, so if you have a touch of masochism, we will get along quite nicely.

I would like our relationship to be ongoing and not just a “satisfy me now” type arrangement. I want to see you grow over time, and help you become a better version of yourself. I want to hear what interests you most about exploring a long term cgl or a D/s dynamic. Please share with me a little about yourself, what you like to do and your kinks.

In a perfect world, I would like a little girl who lives near me so we can meet in person, however I’m also open to long distance relationships.

I am polyamorous, and my partner is fully aware of my search to find my special person.

P.S. If you are only looking for a ONS, or intend to ghost me, please do not message me.