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BDSM Test

02.02.2023 by William Leave a Comment

Since it is a new year, I have decided to give the BDSM Test another crack for 2023. I want to see how much I have evolved over time.

Looking at the results quickly, being a switch still remains number 1 on my list. There have been some slight movements up and down the list, but I think overall the list is relatively steady.

I definitely agree with the switch rating, as I swing both ways. I’ll come back in a few months and see what happens.

BDSM ARCHETYPE	RATING
Switch	100%
Non-monogamist	90%
Brat	90%
Experimentalist	86%
Masochist	85%
Daddy/Mommy	85%
Dominant	79%
Sadist	76%
Submissive	76%
Brat tamer	74%
Ageplayer	73%
Boy/girl	73%
Rigger	68%
Voyeur	61%
Vanilla	53%
Primal (Hunter)	41%
Primal (Prey)	34%
Master/Mistress	31%
Rope bunny	31%
Owner	23%
Degrader	14%
Exhibitionist	11%
Slave	9%
Pet	3%
Degradee	3%

Here’s to the next time I do the test and see how I have evolved further.

I shared my current personals profile post that I have been using for the last couple of weeks over on Fetlife and Reddit. I don’t want this blog to become my seeking place, but I want to share to get some crowd improvements that may help.

So I am always thinking about things to add (or remove) that might help my posts stand out from the general crowd and find that special person to explore with.

So I would love for some of my readers to have a read of what I currently use, and share some thoughts about a number of different aspects for it:

What makes you choose to ignore the post altogether?
What interests you to read it in full and not respond?
What stirs something inside to cause you to send a message?

So I would love your thoughts, you can share them publicly below as a comment, or you can share them privately using my Contact form.

Aussie Daddy seeking his special little

12.01.2023 by William

Hello Littles, middles and caregivers

My name is William. I am from Sydney, Australia, and I am looking for someone to be my special little. I have lots of love to share with you and much to teach you as my little.

I am:

kind, caring, sensual and affectionate
assertive and dominant as we explore our shared kinks together
open minded as I listen and learn about you, your wants, needs, and everything your heart desires.

I want the two of us to have a great time whenever we are together (as well as apart), and to share dinner dates, movie nights, dancing, cuddles, kisses and so much more.

I would like my little to:

be nerdy, geeky and/or artistic
have hobbies outside of Cgl
have some bratty tendencies, but also know when Daddy mean business

I do not mind a little who is into pacifiers and bottles/sippy cups, and she can also be into wearing diapers if she wants. I have some sadist tendencies, so if you have a touch of masochism, we will get along quite nicely.

I would like our relationship to be ongoing and not just a “satisfy me now” type arrangement. I want to see you grow over time, and help you become a better version of yourself. I want to hear what interests you most about exploring a long term cgl or a D/s dynamic. Please share with me a little about yourself, what you like to do and your kinks.

In a perfect world, I would like a little girl who lives near me so we can meet in person, however I’m also open to long distance relationships.

I am polyamorous, and my partner is fully aware of my search to find my special person.

P.S. If you are only looking for a ONS, or intend to ghost me, please do not message me.

Switch

04.01.2023 by William 2 Comments

Are you more dominant or submissive (or a bit of both)?

I’m surprised that of the 30 questions, I didn’t answer this as the very first one. I guess that’s the problem with being at the bottom of the list.

Well given the title of this blog, Musings of a Switch, I am very much a switch, so I lean both dominant and submissive depending on a number of factors.

I am certain that I am a switch through and through. I have submissive days, and I have dominant days. I am also submissive to people with dominant personalities, and vice versa.

However beyond submissive and dominant days with people of the corresponding personality. There are longer periods of time as well that I feel either submissive or dominant.

At the moment, I am going through a dominant period. My interests currently lie in Caregiver/Little as a nurturing Daddy Dom, and the top role in a number of kinks where I have an interest.

I am unable to immediately switch between the two, mostly it is a gradual process, or evolution of feelings that flows between the two states. Or it comes from a feeling that emerges when I wake up in the morning. There are some days where the two co-exist and I have some submissive traits mixed in with dominant traits.

As for answering the question above, I am both a submissive and a dominant, however at the moment I am leaning more towards the dominant part of the spectrum. Although If I came across a dominant woman who I found attractive, I would become submissive leaning for them.

Respect

23.12.2022 by William Leave a Comment

What I am about to write in this post is difficult to share. I am frustrated by a recent chain of events that happened in my list this week. I want to move on from these events and put this experience behind me. However I have a desire to write and share these thoughts.

Last wee, I spotted a post published by a transmasculine non-binary person. They are located in the same metropolitan region as I am, and they were looking for a Daddy Dom to explore a potential dynamic with.

I reached out to them to see if we could have a chat, to see if there was some common ground, and to see what might happen. The conversation flowed easily, and we realised that we could offer what we were each looking for.

I have not had many interactions with a transmasculine non-binary person before. I did my best to be respectful. I feel like I may have slipped up once or twice, I apologised and they assured me that I was doing well, and that I had the right intentions with our interactions.

During our talk, the topic of past dynamics and relationships came up. Obviously I shared my experiences of these dynamics. One particular experience I shared was about being ghosted.

As a result of some of my past interactions, I believe that it is better to be open and honest about your feelings with the other person than outright ghost them if you don’t want to continue. They said something very similar, and said they something along the lines of “I believe I would be respectful if things do not work out [between us], but obviously hope it would not come to that”.

We continued chatting, even started to arrange to catch-up in person during the break. Clearly we were both excited to be meeting a potential play partner and that became the topic of conversation for a while.

The conversation flowed well over a few days, we still talked about the upcoming catch-up. And then the following events occurred.

Late one evening, we were chatting as normal for us, we were both tired and it was getting late. We said our good nights to each other. I planned to stay up for a bit longer. As I was sitting there doing whatever I was doing, the conversation disappeared from the app we were using. I thought it was strange for a conversation to disappear. My initial thoughts were that there was a bug in the app, and I restarted the phone/app but the conversation was gone.

Given it was late I didn’t was to press the issue, and thought it could be resolved the following morning.

I remained awake and continued with my evening. However as I climbed into bed, I received a message from them using the orginal platform where we met. It said the following:

Hey. Just want to apologise. This got overwhelming very quickly and I can’t do this. I hope there is no hard feelings but I can’t meet up or continue speaking. It was my first step into attempting poly and I got scared. So, I need to focus on myself and my current relationship so I can get over these fears. Good luck with it all, and sorry again.

I can understand things being new and challenging your thoughts, but I also know that we discussed “exit strategies” for lack of a better term, and being respectful of each others feelings if things weren’t working for us.

That was not the message I was expecting at all. I thought maybe the topic of things moving too fast could come up, then we could stop & evaluate the situation, and have an adult conversation and talk about what was not working. I was hoping that there would be at least show some respect to the other person rather than just ghosting them leaving them in the dark with a vague message that was a complete 180-degree turn from where the conversation left just 2 hours earlier.

I have my suspicions as to why I was ghosted (they developed feelings they weren’t expecting to develop). I understand that non-monogamy may not be for everyone, and I can respect that.

I would have been happy to step back and let them evaluate whether they wanted to pursue the dynamic further or not. Being ghosted without an explanation just sucks, especially when things felt like they were going really well just a few hours earlier.

While I don’t need an explanation, it would be nice to receive an explanation of why would want to end things.

It is disappointing that something that felt natural and going well, and had promise for both parties, ended the way it did.

Logically I am somewhat relieved that it happened before we met in person, or at the time of the planned catch-up. However I am disappointed that it happened at all, especially we we had discussed this exact type of situation earlier on. It happened, what’s done is done, I have to move on, but it is sad that it happened.

All I can say is that for those people looking to explore non-monogamy, please be open and honest with all people involved. Do not ghost! The only reason I can see where ghosting is valid is when there is a threat to your safety.