Musings of a Switch

Unfiltered thoughts from a bisexual switch

Kinks

Sexually daring

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What is the most sexually daring thing you’ve ever done?

When I originally chose this topic, I clearly had something in mind. Now a week later, that idea has completely disappeared. So now I have to come up with a new sexually daring idea.

In reality, I think the most sexually daring thing that I have done involved my polyamorous girlfriend. We organised an overnight date at a local motel as neither of our home lives gave us the privacy that we wanted for ourselves. It was a suburban hotel, and after checking in early afternoon, but before we headed out for dinner. We took to the bedroom.

Our time involved my chastity for two weeks leading up to our date. So I was horny! I hadn’t touched myself for two weeks, I had woken up many times to a cock straining to get out of the cage at 3am, and since we didn’t catch up physically often, AND I was lusting after my girlfriend so much.

Basically as soon as we had checked in, I was stripped naked, cock caged, and our time was all about worshipping her and her amazing body. My cock strained at the cage as I licked and sucked on her breasts and cunt. She was horny for me too, but I wanted to be dominated, for her to peg my ass.

I submitted to her there and then. We harnessed her up, slipped in the g-spot dildo we purchased previously, and she slid inside me, my legs up in the air, arse exposed. She fucked me good, I moaned in pure ecstasy as the dildo rubbed my prostate while she fucked me good.

That pegging experience was some of the best sex I have had. I was submissive in the moment, and was being used as I want to be used. The only problem with the experience was that she did not get any great physical sensation during the moment. She was not much of a dominant woman, and there was no physical stimulation for her. As much as I was enjoying the moment, she didn’t enjoy it as much, except for seeing my face and hearing my moans.

Being vulnerable like that was sexually daring at the time, and it was worth being vulnerable in that moment.

Now was that the original idea I had, not really sure, does it address the question, well that could be completely debatable. But I hope you enjoyed the event.

BDSM Test

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Since it is a new year, I have decided to give the BDSM Test another crack for 2023. I want to see how much I have evolved over time.

Looking at the results quickly, being a switch still remains number 1 on my list. There have been some slight movements up and down the list, but I think overall the list is relatively steady.

I definitely agree with the switch rating, as I swing both ways. I’ll come back in a few months and see what happens.

BDSM ARCHETYPERATING
Switch100%
Non-monogamist90%
Brat90%
Experimentalist86%
Masochist85%
Daddy/Mommy85%
Dominant79%
Sadist76%
Submissive76%
Brat tamer74%
Ageplayer73%
Boy/girl73%
Rigger68%
Voyeur61%
Vanilla53%
Primal (Hunter)41%
Primal (Prey)34%
Master/Mistress31%
Rope bunny31%
Owner23%
Degrader14%
Exhibitionist11%
Slave9%
Pet3%
Degradee3%

Here’s to the next time I do the test and see how I have evolved further.

Prostate play

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Prostate play, or prostate massage, is the act of massaging or stimulating the prostate gland for sexual stimulation. It was previously used as medical therapy, but this is no longer the case.

In my opinion, there is two forms for prostate play, massage & milking.

My experience

My experience with prostate play is limited. I have only engaged in light prostate massage with toys and fingers. I find that ongoing massage leading to milking leads to unbearable sensations that become uncomfortable.

However, the times I engaged in prostate play were some of the most enjoyable sexual experiences I have been involved in. My prostate has been stimulated in a number of ways including both fingers and toys.

My favourite method for prostate play is during the submissive moments that are experienced while being pegged.

Intimacy

I find that exposing one self for prostate play requires a high level of intimacy. I do not feel comfortable opening myself up for prostate play on a first date. I feel that it needs a level of trust that I cannot give to anyone I meet for the first time.

I have only felt comfortable to open up for prostate play with two people, Missus Sub and a previous poly partner involving pegging. Both ladies have stimulated my prostate using toys and the intimate act of pegging.

Recent experience

Unfortunately there has not been much experience lately. I have not been on the receiving end of prostate stimulation for quite some time. It is something I would like to bring back, but family life makes this somewhat difficult. I suspect it will make a renaissance once the children are older.

Future desire

Writing about prostate play is bringing back memories of play times of the past, the emotional intimacy required to submit to someone and expose yourself for prostate play. While I write this, my mind wanders into engaging in some solo prostate play if I cannot get some private time with Missus Sub.

The idea of a leaking cock because there is pressure on my prostate from a butt plug or dildo certainly stirs something deep inside my mind and body.

Hopefully there will be some prostate play in my near future, but if there isn’t there will always be the reminder of fictional stories about prostate play.

Kissing date

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TW: The following story may contain topics that some readers find sensitive. All persons mentioned are of legal age and are able to give informed consent.

Sometimes the best stories come from real life scenarios and the possibilities that may develop from the situation. This is one of those events.

I am a prolific poster on Reddit & some of the more NSFW Subreddits where people, mostly women share their bodies with many subscribers from around the world. I am using Reddit at the moment to look for a little girl as part of a Daddy Dom Little girl (DDlg) dynamic, online or in real life.

At least once per week, I post up a personals ad offering to be a Daddy for Littles online or IRL. Most people who reply are from overseas. Now and then I come across someone from the land of Australia, mostly from states other than my home state.

Today, a lovely lady who goes by the name Olivia, asked if I could answer a few questions for her about DDlg. We had a good conversation via Reddit chat, and I cleared up some of her confusions and I answered questions to the best of my continually learning knowledge-bank.

After a few more days of chatting, we agreed to meet in person. This first meeting would involve a picnic and to eliminate any expectations of how the date would end, we agreed to partake in a ‘kissing date‘.

We organised to meet at the botanic gardens for a lovely picnic of sandwiches and champagne. I made some sandwiches that morning to bring with me. I packed a picnic blanket ready for our date, as well as champagne flutes. Olivia agreed to bring her favourite champagne for us to drink.

We travelled separately to our date. I arrived first and setup the blanket for us under the shade of a large tree. I pulled out the plates, sandwiches and champagne flutes ready for the date. Olivia arrived a few minutes later and brought over the champagne for us.

We did the polite thing with a cheek kiss and sat down on the blanket. We chatted for a few minutes, we were already comfortable chatting, but being in person made things a little awkward at first, but we soon found our chatting rhythm.

I offered to open the champagne. I took the bottle, and slowly worked out the cork with the familiar pop. I poured out two glasses of champagne for us. I set the bottle down, and we celebrated our first meeting.

It was time for some food, I offered Olivia the sandwiches, and she took a few to nibble on, but I sensed the food would only be the appetiser.

Olivia put her sandwiches to the side, and she jumped on top of me pushing me to the ground. She leaned in and kissed me passionately. I returned the kiss, we just lay there for a few minutes continually kissing. I hugged Olivia and pulled her body close to mine.

We rolled over so I was on top. The kissing continued of course, and the tension was slowly building. Olivia’s hands started to wander all over my body.

Olivia reached down between us & rubbed my cock through my jeans. I ignored her advances & continued the kissing.

We positioned ourselves side by side to continue kissing each other. Our hands were enthusiastically exploring each other’s curves & crevices.

Olivia mentioned she wanted to see my pierced cock in person as she had never seen one up close. She reached down and tried to slide her hand inside my jeans. I grabbed her wrist playfully and pulled her hand out. She tried again and I pulled her wrist back out again.

We continued kissing enjoying the taste of each other’s lips. Olivia reached down again & rubbed my hardening cock through my jeans again. I moaned at her touch. I wanted her to touch it but we agreed to a kissing only date.

I rubbed her cunt through her dress and panties. I could feel her warmth and knew she was wet, but I resisted lifting her dress for a closer inspection. I really wanted to touch her cunt and taste her juices, just as she wanted to taste & feel my cock in her mouth.

The kissing subsided for a bit to catch our breath. We were both hot and horny for each other, but knew we agreed to limits. We could have changed those limits, but what would we do next time?

We finished up the last of the champagne and sandwiches sitting on the blanket just talking.

Soon the time allocated came to the close, we still wanted each other, & knew this relationship could go further than we initially thought back during those first few messages on Reddit.

We packed up & wandered back to the cars, hand in hand, giddy with excitement over what just happened and what may happen in the future.

BDSM Test

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Every few months I do the BDSM Test and see how my kinks have evolved, been added to, or fallen away into the background.

These are my latest set of results, and as usual, being a Switch remains top of my list. But what does surprise me this time is that for most of BDSM Archetypes categorised, most of them are paire for both the top and bottom sides of them, for instance, Sadism & Masochism, and Boy/Girl & Daddy/Mommy.

I guess it is something that cements in the idea of being a true Switch.

BDSM ArchetypeRating
Switch100%
Masochist83%
Sadist82%
Rope bunny80%
Submissive79%
Boy/Girl76%
Daddy/Mommy75%
Non-monogamist74%
Experimentalist73%
Rigger71%
Dominant70%
Ageplayer69%
Brat69%
Voyeur61%
Primal (Prey)52%
Brat Tamer50%
Pet46%
Primal (Hunter)40%
Slave31%
Vanilla31%
Degradee30%
Degrader29%
Master / Mistress17%
Exhibitionist14%
Owner7%
http://bdsmtest.org/r/ac5rpDt5

Here’s to the next time I do the test and see how I have evolved.