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Spankee

28.01.2023 by William Leave a Comment

Hello everyone, I am new to the S/M scene and I have an interest in being on the receiving end of a spanking. As I am new, what is in my mind may be very different from what my body may be able to handle.

So I am looking for someone who is willing to guide me, to show me the ropes so to speak, and let me explore my threshold for spanking & impact play, and potentially even pushing my boundaries (under consent obviously).

I’m unable to host, but would be willing to explore other options (yours, hotel, outdoors, etc).

Please hit me up if this is something you might be open to exploring with a BHM.

Filed Under: Musings Tagged With: impact play, submissive

Switch

04.01.2023 by William 2 Comments

Are you more dominant or submissive (or a bit of both)?

I’m surprised that of the 30 questions, I didn’t answer this as the very first one. I guess that’s the problem with being at the bottom of the list.

Well given the title of this blog, Musings of a Switch, I am very much a switch, so I lean both dominant and submissive depending on a number of factors.

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I am certain that I am a switch through and through. I have submissive days, and I have dominant days. I am also submissive to people with dominant personalities, and vice versa.

However beyond submissive and dominant days with people of the corresponding personality. There are longer periods of time as well that I feel either submissive or dominant.

At the moment, I am going through a dominant period. My interests currently lie in Caregiver/Little as a nurturing Daddy Dom, and the top role in a number of kinks where I have an interest.

I am unable to immediately switch between the two, mostly it is a gradual process, or evolution of feelings that flows between the two states. Or it comes from a feeling that emerges when I wake up in the morning. There are some days where the two co-exist and I have some submissive traits mixed in with dominant traits.

As for answering the question above, I am both a submissive and a dominant, however at the moment I am leaning more towards the dominant part of the spectrum. Although If I came across a dominant woman who I found attractive, I would become submissive leaning for them.

Filed Under: Thoughts Tagged With: daddy dom little girl, dominant, january jumpstart 2023, kinks, submissive

Respect

23.12.2022 by William Leave a Comment

What I am about to write in this post is difficult to share. I am frustrated by a recent chain of events that happened in my list this week. I want to move on from these events and put this experience behind me. However I have a desire to write and share these thoughts.

Last wee, I spotted a post published by a transmasculine non-binary person. They are located in the same metropolitan region as I am, and they were looking for a Daddy Dom to explore a potential dynamic with.

I reached out to them to see if we could have a chat, to see if there was some common ground, and to see what might happen. The conversation flowed easily, and we realised that we could offer what we were each looking for.

I have not had many interactions with a transmasculine non-binary person before. I did my best to be respectful. I feel like I may have slipped up once or twice, I apologised and they assured me that I was doing well, and that I had the right intentions with our interactions.

During our talk, the topic of past dynamics and relationships came up. Obviously I shared my experiences of these dynamics. One particular experience I shared was about being ghosted.

As a result of some of my past interactions, I believe that it is better to be open and honest about your feelings with the other person than outright ghost them if you don’t want to continue. They said something very similar, and said they something along the lines of “I believe I would be respectful if things do not work out [between us], but obviously hope it would not come to that”.

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We continued chatting, even started to arrange to catch-up in person during the break. Clearly we were both excited to be meeting a potential play partner and that became the topic of conversation for a while.

The conversation flowed well over a few days, we still talked about the upcoming catch-up. And then the following events occurred.

Late one evening, we were chatting as normal for us, we were both tired and it was getting late. We said our good nights to each other. I planned to stay up for a bit longer. As I was sitting there doing whatever I was doing, the conversation disappeared from the app we were using. I thought it was strange for a conversation to disappear. My initial thoughts were that there was a bug in the app, and I restarted the phone/app but the conversation was gone.

Given it was late I didn’t was to press the issue, and thought it could be resolved the following morning.

I remained awake and continued with my evening. However as I climbed into bed, I received a message from them using the orginal platform where we met. It said the following:

Hey. Just want to apologise. This got overwhelming very quickly and I can’t do this. I hope there is no hard feelings but I can’t meet up or continue speaking. It was my first step into attempting poly and I got scared. So, I need to focus on myself and my current relationship so I can get over these fears. Good luck with it all, and sorry again.

I can understand things being new and challenging your thoughts, but I also know that we discussed “exit strategies” for lack of a better term, and being respectful of each others feelings if things weren’t working for us.

That was not the message I was expecting at all. I thought maybe the topic of things moving too fast could come up, then we could stop & evaluate the situation, and have an adult conversation and talk about what was not working. I was hoping that there would be at least show some respect to the other person rather than just ghosting them leaving them in the dark with a vague message that was a complete 180-degree turn from where the conversation left just 2 hours earlier.

I have my suspicions as to why I was ghosted (they developed feelings they weren’t expecting to develop). I understand that non-monogamy may not be for everyone, and I can respect that.

I would have been happy to step back and let them evaluate whether they wanted to pursue the dynamic further or not. Being ghosted without an explanation just sucks, especially when things felt like they were going really well just a few hours earlier.

While I don’t need an explanation, it would be nice to receive an explanation of why would want to end things.

It is disappointing that something that felt natural and going well, and had promise for both parties, ended the way it did.

Logically I am somewhat relieved that it happened before we met in person, or at the time of the planned catch-up. However I am disappointed that it happened at all, especially we we had discussed this exact type of situation earlier on. It happened, what’s done is done, I have to move on, but it is sad that it happened.

All I can say is that for those people looking to explore non-monogamy, please be open and honest with all people involved. Do not ghost! The only reason I can see where ghosting is valid is when there is a threat to your safety.

Filed Under: Thoughts Tagged With: daddy dom little girl, little, non-monogamy, submissive

Use me

16.11.2022 by William Leave a Comment

I would like someone to bind me, blindfold me, and then turn me into their sex doll using all my holes as they see fit.

Alternatively, I would like to spend some time alone, with a large knotted dildo, and give myself an anal orgasm.

Filed Under: Musings Tagged With: anal, fetish, kinks, submissive

Dildo thoughts

19.10.2022 by William Leave a Comment

This post is about sharing some of my raw thoughts and emotions than a detailed blog post. I may post short little thoughts from time to time to learn about myself.

You may have seen my tweet about some porn I stumbled across over on Reddit.

I took to Reddit last night for some porn, and stumbled across r/baddragonboys. Scrolling through got me quite impressed at some toy sizes & worked up and wanting some anal penetration. Now I can't get the thoughts out of my bed before work @bad_dragon #anal #submissive #musings

— William Wallace (@givinglessfucks) October 18, 2022

As I write this entry, I have thoughts rolling in my head about spending time alone with a dildo, lube and my ass.

The idea of riding a dildo excites me. However finding the time to do so is my greatest challenge. There are other little things that stop me from doing so, but with time I can work through those issues.

Filed Under: Musings Tagged With: anal, dildo, submissive

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